I honestly have no idea why I feel the need to clarify things for those people but here goes:
Their comment:
A $500-2500 cake topper?????? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
What was said in this blog:
Since it's a paintball themed event the cake topper will need to be paintball as well. I know we haven't been looking long but so far it doesn't look like anyone makes a paintball themed topper. We've found several sites that offer to make custom ones starting at $500USD up to $2500.00USD. That could very well take our meager budget of $2400CAD and blow it straight to hell. You can see why we're happy to have the monetary donations and why I'm going to be looking for sponsors.
As you can see we're not impressed with the price of a custom topper. It would be nice to have one that matched the wedding theme. It also explains why we'd prefer a cash gift versus a toaster.
I've also stated that there are a couple of folks on the paintball forum looking into making a paintball topper. We've offered to pay for it as long as it's not insanely expensive.
Their comment:
Is there a point to my rambling? Not sure. But if I had two years to plan a wedding, and already had $4000 in the bank, I would be way ahead of where I am now!
What was said in this blog:
Based on our earnings we will have about $4000.00 squirreled away for the wedding. It's not much but it's enough for a small simple wedding.
"Squirreled away". That doesn't mean we HAVE $4000.00 sitting in our account. I wish we did. It means that we should be able to SAVE that much for the wedding. But what do they care? Thy have their noses so up in the air their brains aren't getting enough oxygen for them to understand things.
Their comment:
If they're having money problems now they aren't going to make it
To this the only possible comment that wa made on this blog is that we've been together to nearly 9 years as it is. We've been through financial trouble before and we're still together. But I guess that doesn't count for anything in their eyes.
Their comment:
Maybe if they explained why they are taking donations/They better have a good reason for it
Based on what I've seen over there, why should we? So you can sit there and say we're lying, making things up to have people feel sorry for us? Not going to happen. Those that know us, know what what we've been through.
Their comment:
She was whiny in her post about her dress basically asking form someone to buy it for her
How is thinking you'll only have $2400.00 to do a wedding and knowing your dream dress alone is going to cost half your budget? That's just flat out disappointment. We tweaked our budget and, assuming there's no major problems between now and then, should be able to save up twice what we first thought. Again, they failed to actually READ and COMPREHEND. Nobody was asked to buy the dress, it's just someone spreading the good karma around.
The tuxes... I asked the head of Special Ops Paintball Softgoods Dept. about the fabric and cost to make them. Again, out of the blue, they offered to do it for free with the only stipulation being that I send them pics to use in their advertising. I can see the tag line now, "Special Ops: We make woodsball look good!" I don't think anyone has played paintball in a suit sine Dave Youngblood back in the 80's.
Now I think I addressed most of the bitching from the crabby ladies over on Canadianbride but Carrie said she wants to add something.
I would like to add: We really do not give a darn what anyone thinks of us. We HAVE never asked anyone for money and I never once said I wanted my dress bought for me, but the jerks (we know who you are) seem to think that we are not putting any money into this wedding. We are. We have been asked however to put a paypal account up so other people in the USA, who are our friends, would have a place to put money as a WEDDING GIFT to do with as we please. So if you do not know the facts then keep your damn mouth shut. Live your life the way you wish, and let others do the same. (Carrie the proud BRIDE to be)
At this point I think this ugly little chapter of crap is done and closed.
Yesterday Carrie and her friend & bridesmaid Sarah Withrow (Excellent author btw) went to look at the dress again and went for lunch. During the course of the day Sarah commented that she was going to look into becoming licensed to perform weddings so she could do ours. She has to do some research on how to become ordained on line what she has to do to be registered to perform it.
It would be awesome if that happened and we've offered to cover a portion of the cost for her to get licensed. Whether she can become ordained still remains to be seen.
3 comments:
Hello son of mine and daughter-in-law of the future. I had no idea about all of this garbage on the bride forum thingy and was really disappointed in how Jennifer, Jim's niece, conducted herself. She has a really bad attitude and clearly has made a great effort in only posting partial stories about me. She failed to mention how her "family circle" from the very beginning 18 years ago, have continually been abusive, rude and disrespectful toward me.
Jennifer's grandmother deserved it when I blew up at her. After several years of taking her abuse and saying nothing, I reached the limit. With Jennifer, it is clear where she developed her lack of personality from. Don't let it get to you. It is apparent and obvious that many in that bride talkboard do not know how to comprehend what they read, do not know anything about anyone, other than the fact that Jennifer is capable of slander, deformation of character and perhaps much worse. She has a very terrible ugly side to her.
Many people in your lives, Keith and Carrie, shall try to destroy what you have between you. It will be out of sheer jealousy. They most likely wish they had the chance to plan their weddings in a more fun way, rather than so straight laced traditional. There are no real rules. Fools make rules for robotic people to follow and believe to be the way to do things. Quite frankly, I am proud that you have the courage to follow your dreams. The know how, to achieve these dreams. The stability in your relationship to withstand the stupidity that others, like Jennifer, try to create. You are a strong and well balanced and responsible couple. You have already proven that your relationship is long term and will be forever.
Like Jim and I. 18 years is more than four times the length of time he spent with either of his ex-wives, whom, might I add, Jennifer's grandmother mistreated as well. They are both friends of mine.
So, if Jennifer (jfgirl) or any of her celluloid "family circle" care to ask grandma "nasty" what she has done to "C" "T" and myself, they will be in for a mighty big surprise.
I believe all the nastiness put in jfgirl's postings was uncalled for, and that she has again, along with her pathetic posse, proven themselves rather foolish.
I am sure your truest friends, from all over the world, throughout your paintball forum, and within your non-back-stabbing family, are behind you 100% in all that you choose to do in regards to your happy wedding day.
Always,
mom
Carrie,
I think your comments are well said and show far more maturity than jfgirl showed in the bride talkboard thing.
Neither of you deserve to be hurt by the rude remarks that were made, or the insinuations that were made. Some people need to grow up! Clearly it is jlgirl who needs to grow up. You are fine as you are.
Mom
Alright, I'm big enough to admit a mistake. I misread the blog. I thought it said you HAD money put away, not you WILL HAVE that amount put away. So, I apologize for my mistake.
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